If you've ever had your heart broken, you know how vulnerable it leaves you. It's scary to be blown wide open.
That’s why we don’t let ourselves stay that way. We develop ways to cope or hide.
Some people replay every detail and wonder: What did I do wrong? Could I have done anything to prevent the break-up? Should I have acted differently?
Wondering about the should haves/would haves/could haves is a very human response.
It gives us the illusion of control. It gives us a place to lay blame.
But dwelling on what could, should, or would have been won't help you heal.
Other people don't obsess over the details. They go the opposite route and try not to think about what happened.
They prefer to repress those messy, hurtful emotions and pretend nothing has happened.
Pushing down our feelings helps us maintain the illusion that we’re fine.
But ignoring emotions doesn't make them go away.
They lurk underneath the surface of your skin, gaining steam and strength.
Eventually, they’ll burst out, demanding your attention, and causing you to act out in unpredictably bad ways.
I’ll tell you what’s a faster and healthier way to heal.
Lean into the hurt. Listen to your heart. Reserve judgement. Treat yourself with love and compassion. Forgive yourself and others.
People come into our lives for a reason.
There's a lesson we can learn from each relationship we have, especially the ones that break our hearts.
But if you don't take the time to learn the lesson in the heartbreak, you might find yourself making the same 'mistakes' over and over again.
If that’s where you are, that’s your challenge: Turn your heartbreaks into heart openers. Acknowledge the lesson and let yourself heal.
I promise you’ll come out of this stronger than before, with a heart that’s a whole lot wiser.
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